Taking care of yourself will often trigger those who neglect themselves.

Have you ever had someone ask you on a random Tuesday,
“Where are you going after this? You’re too well-dressed for the mall.”
Or, “How long does it take you to get ready? I bet a lot.”
Or, “Is this all for me?”

No, Patricia. It’s for me.

I dress up for me. I show up for me. I work hard for me. I want the best for me.

The same people who make comments about how you dress are the ones side-eyeing you at the gym when you’re consistent. When they see you putting in effort in your body, in your presence, in your work, in your family, in your life, it reminds them of what they are not doing. And instead of rising, they try to pull you down, to make you feel bad for wanting only the best for yourself.

Here’s the truth: the only thing some people are good at is projecting their lack of discipline. The best way to protect your growth is to cut those voices off completely.

Never shrink, be your best, unapologetic version. If that makes you the most elegant, the most disciplined, the most passionate, or even the most interesting person in your group, it is not a compliment. It is a RED FLAG. You are in the wrong place.

Pay attention. Do not let yourself be caged by the comfort of others’ low standards.